There is a systematic process to feeling good about yourself, owning your success and connecting with your authentic self. And some people find it by accident. Last week, James told me he had outward success; a £100M+ turnover company, a fabulous house, three cars and a motorbike. And three years ago he was dealing with […]
An inspiring message. But how exactly do we believe in ourselves? Rarely are we taught HOW to believe in ourselves. Take a lifetime of criticism, doubt and judgements from ourselves and others. Add in the meaning we give to it, and we can become highly stressed, full of doubts, and unconsciously reactive to events. No
As an author, I often combine stories either to make a point or to increase confidentiality. Shockingly, this is the story of just one person that I interviewed while researching for my book. I have only changed the name. It underlines how serious and significant imposter syndrome can be, and how everyone loses; the individual,
Goal-setting season fast approaches, and with it the exciting process of reviewing 2019 achievements and creating your best, bold vision for 2020. Doing your goal-setting right is crucial as it will define your whole year. Yet as the song goes, ‘It ain’t what you do it’s the way that you do it’. To be done
BEM May 2018 – Tara Halliday book review ‘Unmasking: The Coach’s Guide to Imposter Syndrome’ featured in business section of East Anglian Daily Times
Is there a difference between delivering great work and peak performance? Athletes talk about the peak performance ‘flow’ state, a sense of effortless excellence and a calm thrill. Does that translate into the business world? My recent experience writing my second book sheds light on how peak performance really feels. The first book Last year
Recently I’ve been procrastinating on a project of a bigger scale than I have done before. It was the sneaky kind of procrastination, below the radar, where I didn’t notice I was putting things off until the task became urgent. Then it was so clear, and my internal alarm bells rang. Time to fix it.
What lies behind our everyday behaviour? Relaxing with my head in a hairdresser’s sink recently, I noticed the salon trainee carefully washed my hair – twice. I had to quietly smile. It reminded me of the story in Benjamin Cheever’s novel ‘The Plagiarist’ when a marketing executive becomes an industry legend by adding one word
Do you beat yourself up when you’ve made a mistake? Do you worry about it or lose sleep over it? If you do, you’re certainly not alone. It’s so common for people to agonise over the mistakes that they’ve made that it seems normal. That it’s just what we all do. But this self-beating is
This is the ‘Age of Accelerations’* where everything is changing at an eye-watering pace. Technology races ahead, global markets are shifting rapidly, work patterns are moving to transient project teams and a gig economy, and the next generation of workers have hugely different values and expectations of their work life. Predictability has gone out of
